I got my hair cut this weekend. Even in normal times I tend to put off this chore, but my locks had extended to more than halfway down my back, the longest since I was 15. As my current hair is fluffier than my teenage hair, whenever it hit my bare back it tickles like sixteen strolling spiders. Time for Supercuts.
I used to go to higher end salons, back when my efforts to pass for normal were at their height. The kind of joints where customers used the same stylist every time, with appointments set weeks in advance. Where they bring you a coffee or tea, sometimes even a little glass of wine. Where there’s a pitcher of lemon-water and a tray of nibbles in the waiting area, with artisan jewelry, tiny jars of face cream, and fancy hair products for sale as well as stacks of fashion magazines to browse. Where there are dedicated shampooers, and sometimes even a darkened shampoo room with stars in the ceiling and music-of-the-spheres tunes on the soundtrack.
These salons do, generally, give somewhat superior haircuts to Supercuts. I left with hair that was smooth and shiny, wafting the scent of an umbrella drink sipped on a Caribbean beach. I wonder if the aesthetic experience at the expensive places is worse now that everybody has to wear masks and socially distance. It wasn’t the pandemic (or finances) that sent me to Supercuts, though. A couple of issues arising from my autism, specifically involving shampoos and conversation, had soured me on snooty beauty.
For me, a salon shampoo became an ordeal, especially if it culminated in a “relaxing” scalp massage. My entire body would cramp. It’s been sad to realize that some of the autistic sensory issues that I’d thought I’d conquered over the years (e.g., tolerance for someone kneading my scalp) have resurrected. And perhaps even intensified. I can pretend not to be bothered by stuff like this, which might build character but also wears me out for more important stuff, or I can avoid it. Supercuts stylists don’t push you to get a shampoo. They just wet the hair with a spray bottle and carry on.
In the pricey parlors you see the same stylist every time. Some of them keep notes and will ask how your kid or cat is doing. Yikes! I can handle small talk or casual conversations okay, I hope, sometimes. Other times I perseverate about what I’m doing wrong. I hate the idea of boring or annoying someone whose pay depends at least in part on my satisfaction. Conversation is an area where I’m always learning and experimenting, but do I have the right takeaways from my experiments? Am I a valued or dreaded customer (albeit one who tips at least 30%)? Supercuts stylists can vary in chattiness, but since I never have the same one twice there’s less pressure to be perfect. In cases where I feel that I really goofed…there are Supercuts in other towns. Sometimes the gods smile on me, and the stylists are so busy talking to each other that no one is talking much to me except to check whether the length is okay.
My stylist made sure I knew how much hair four inches was, sprayed me down, and started pruning. We talked for a bit about how today was sunny and warm and tomorrow would be rainy, and then we shut up and listened to the radio. She started to even out my bangs, which between haircuts I solo-trim very badly. The comb’s teeth dragged over my forehead again and again as she snipped. I thought I would go mad. Scrape. Snip. Scrape. Snipsnip. Scraaaape. I was glad to be wearing a mask so that I only had to manage the third of my face that was uncovered.
Finally she was done. My hair bounced around my shoulders. The sun was shining, and it would be months before the spiders strolled again. A fragile triumph, but a victory nonetheless.